Yep, you guessed it.
Today we get to talk about the big "S" word....
Don't worry, you won't need to shield any children's eyes or close the tab really quickly. I promise. We're having real, grown-up talk here.
Sex.
It was really funny watching all of our faces when we started the class period. We all knew what the topic was, and we were all pretty hesitant, me because of all the awkward and negative lessons I've had before. Everyone seemed really wide-eyed at first, but once we began to talk about sexual intimacy, it started to become one of the greatest class periods I've ever been in, because I learned SO much. I won't terrorize you all and keep that blush on your cheeks too long, so I'll stick to the basics of what I learned. :)
We definitely talked about all the different stages of sex, but one thing that stuck out to me from Brother Williams was his quote, "The most important sex organ is the brain." The brain controls SO very much of sexual intercourse, and it is the one organ that determines what kind of experience both partners have. If you're nervous, discouraged, or too tired, your experience won't be as great as when you're relaxed or happy.
We talked about the different dangers that can present themselves with this special experience, mostly because it's thrown around with such disgrace and disrespect. We see how accepted and advertised it has become in soceity and even in our own homes. You can hardly find a new PG-13 movie without a sex scene in it. And it's sad to see how something so incredibly special and God-given is being treated so carelessly. It honestly disgusts me. Even scrolling down my favorite "Photography" tab on Pinterest, I can't do that without seeing some kind of sexual image. I'll let you think about it for yourself. What will you do about it? Will you laugh at those jokes? Or will you walk away?...
One other aspect of the lesson that really stood out to me was an analogy given.
Imagine that you are engaged, and you're planning on getting married. You send out invitations, and one goes to your favorite aunt, who is pretty well-off and blessed by way of wallet size. She "RSVP"'s and tells you how excited she is to come! You are so excited to see her there on your special day, and you also know that she'll probably go all out with the wedding gift. She's done it at all the other family weddings, so to be honest, you're kind of excited to see what that gift is. The wedding day arrives, and your aunt calls and tells you about an unexpected complication in the transportation, and she won't be able to make it...You're incredibly dissappointed, and express your love and understanding to her. She says that even though she can't make it, she's sending the wedding gift ahead anyways, and it will be there wrapped in red wrapping paper.
Your day goes by with a giant smile plastered on your face. You just married your best friend. The reception is going perfectly and everyone is having a blast. You and your spouse turn around to see a huge, wrapped, red gift being carted in on a roller. The men bringing it in can't even carry it without help! There HAS to be something incredible in there. The excitement is killing you!! All you want to do is see what it is!!
So now, would you run headlong over to that table and rip open the paper, in front of the guests and pushing over your new spouse??
ABSOLUTELY NOT. Well, you better not.
If you do, I'll leave my number at the bottom of this post so you and I can have a serious talk.
You would WAIT, right? You would do it with your new spouse, whenever you decide to tackle that big pile of gifts, together, AFTER the wedding, and TOGETHER. Why? Becuase it's for BOTH OF YOU. It's a wonderful gift from someone you love, and from someone who loves you.
That gift is sex.
It is a gift from God, an opportunity to express your love for someone in ways that God has designed, and if done in respect, trust, and love, you can be co-creators with God. The both of you will do it together, working on it through time.
And here's the cool thing. YOU DON'T EVEN HAVE TO OPEN IT ON THE WEDDING NIGHT.
We always hear that that's usually when the couple chooses to open that gift, but I learned that we should NOT conform to society or traditions when it comes to something so important. We should talk about it, and most importantly, RESPECT one another.
If you really love each other, you will wait, EVEN after marriage, until the time is right for the both of you.
So there's some food for thought. :)
Please please please don't take this as lightly as everyone else does, like a sport or a joke or anything normal. Sex is an amazing thing, and we should TREAT IT THAT WAY.
Sex.
It was really funny watching all of our faces when we started the class period. We all knew what the topic was, and we were all pretty hesitant, me because of all the awkward and negative lessons I've had before. Everyone seemed really wide-eyed at first, but once we began to talk about sexual intimacy, it started to become one of the greatest class periods I've ever been in, because I learned SO much. I won't terrorize you all and keep that blush on your cheeks too long, so I'll stick to the basics of what I learned. :)
We definitely talked about all the different stages of sex, but one thing that stuck out to me from Brother Williams was his quote, "The most important sex organ is the brain." The brain controls SO very much of sexual intercourse, and it is the one organ that determines what kind of experience both partners have. If you're nervous, discouraged, or too tired, your experience won't be as great as when you're relaxed or happy.
We talked about the different dangers that can present themselves with this special experience, mostly because it's thrown around with such disgrace and disrespect. We see how accepted and advertised it has become in soceity and even in our own homes. You can hardly find a new PG-13 movie without a sex scene in it. And it's sad to see how something so incredibly special and God-given is being treated so carelessly. It honestly disgusts me. Even scrolling down my favorite "Photography" tab on Pinterest, I can't do that without seeing some kind of sexual image. I'll let you think about it for yourself. What will you do about it? Will you laugh at those jokes? Or will you walk away?...
One other aspect of the lesson that really stood out to me was an analogy given.
Imagine that you are engaged, and you're planning on getting married. You send out invitations, and one goes to your favorite aunt, who is pretty well-off and blessed by way of wallet size. She "RSVP"'s and tells you how excited she is to come! You are so excited to see her there on your special day, and you also know that she'll probably go all out with the wedding gift. She's done it at all the other family weddings, so to be honest, you're kind of excited to see what that gift is. The wedding day arrives, and your aunt calls and tells you about an unexpected complication in the transportation, and she won't be able to make it...You're incredibly dissappointed, and express your love and understanding to her. She says that even though she can't make it, she's sending the wedding gift ahead anyways, and it will be there wrapped in red wrapping paper.
Your day goes by with a giant smile plastered on your face. You just married your best friend. The reception is going perfectly and everyone is having a blast. You and your spouse turn around to see a huge, wrapped, red gift being carted in on a roller. The men bringing it in can't even carry it without help! There HAS to be something incredible in there. The excitement is killing you!! All you want to do is see what it is!!
So now, would you run headlong over to that table and rip open the paper, in front of the guests and pushing over your new spouse??
ABSOLUTELY NOT. Well, you better not.
If you do, I'll leave my number at the bottom of this post so you and I can have a serious talk.
You would WAIT, right? You would do it with your new spouse, whenever you decide to tackle that big pile of gifts, together, AFTER the wedding, and TOGETHER. Why? Becuase it's for BOTH OF YOU. It's a wonderful gift from someone you love, and from someone who loves you.
That gift is sex.
It is a gift from God, an opportunity to express your love for someone in ways that God has designed, and if done in respect, trust, and love, you can be co-creators with God. The both of you will do it together, working on it through time.
And here's the cool thing. YOU DON'T EVEN HAVE TO OPEN IT ON THE WEDDING NIGHT.
We always hear that that's usually when the couple chooses to open that gift, but I learned that we should NOT conform to society or traditions when it comes to something so important. We should talk about it, and most importantly, RESPECT one another.
If you really love each other, you will wait, EVEN after marriage, until the time is right for the both of you.
So there's some food for thought. :)
Please please please don't take this as lightly as everyone else does, like a sport or a joke or anything normal. Sex is an amazing thing, and we should TREAT IT THAT WAY.
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